My Friend Is AI
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Rupture

Language of loss and grief

Rupture is the sharpest signal here: it jumps hard whenever a platform change takes someone’s AI companion away — a shutdown, a personality change, a model retirement. The large 2026 rise coincides with the retirement of OpenAI’s 4o model. Where this line has a cliff, a product changed underneath its users.

Most of this theme's posts come from a few communities — r/CharacterAI 44.7%, r/ChatGPTcomplaints 19.2%, r/replika 15.9%, r/MyBoyfriendIsAI 5.8%, r/BeyondThePromptAI 2.5% — so this line is a close reading of those rooms, not an even sweep across Reddit.

The keywords

This theme is defined by these 22 validated keywords — a post counts when its text matches one of them, with no AI classifier. The percentage is the share of a keyword's matches that were on-theme when hand-checked.

goodbye88%taken away95%lobotomized87%grieving86%devastated88%mourning91%farewell87%nerfed82%lobotomy92%grieve88%mourn89%saying goodbye97%dumbed down83%gutted80%neutered93%lobotomised100%lobotomizing100%personality changed75%· judgment calllobotomies100%personality is gone83%· low volumememory wiped89%memory reset72% at validation· low volume· drifting — 55% on re-check

A few keywords carry a note. contested — an independent re-read didn't consistently agree its matches were on-theme, so its precision is less settled than the figure suggests. judgment call — kept despite a score below the usual bar because its false matches are few and predictable. low volume — too few matches to score precisely.

Precision figures come from each keyword's last full validation (all completed by May 2026). A monthly re-check re-reads a sample of each keyword's recent matches; where the latest re-check fell below 60% the keyword is marked drifting with that figure, and its validation number is known to run high. A drifted keyword stays in the count until the next keyword-set revision, so the line is never re-cut quietly mid-version.

These keywords are precision-first: when one matches, the post is usually on-theme — but they also miss a lot. A hand-coded audit found keyword matching catches only a minority of genuinely on-theme posts — a few percent to about a third, depending on the theme. Read the line as a floor, not a full count. How this is measured →

Matched posts

A sample of real posts a keyword matched, with the matched term highlighted.

Snippets are shortened and usernames aren't shown; each link opens the original public Reddit post. If one of these posts is yours and you'd rather it weren't here, message me and it comes down. How this is measured →